-Have dinner sent over or prepare a meal. Make enough for them to share as they will have guests floating in and out. Something smaller scale can be a snack tray or sweet treats such as brownies in lieu of a meal.
-With guests comes the need for paper products: bath tissue, paper towels, paper plates, etc.
-Send stamps with your condolence card. I SO appreciated this gesture and used every single one when sending out thank you notes. It's inexpensive, thoughtful, and much needed.
-Get a copy made of any memento that you might have with the deceased. One of my mom's friends sent me a photo of my mom with my brother and I when we were small that I had never seen. I will truly cherish it.
-Attend the services if possible. You have no idea how much it means to see a familiar, friendly and supportive face. Even if you just stop by and sign the guest book, knowing that you were there gives the family so much comfort. And a note about signing the guest book-please print your name legibly and include an address. It makes it easier for the family to acknowledge your presence with a note of thanks.
-If you send flowers/plants, please have the florist include your full name address on the card, again so that the family can send the note of thanks.
-If you do visit with the family at their home, be mindful of the length of your stay. They are emotionally and physically spent, especially during the early days and the day of the service.
-Follow up and check on them periodically. Those weeks and months after the loss are sometimes the most painful. Oftentimes that is when the grieving process REALLY starts.